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LGBTQIA Survivors

No one deserves to be sexually assaulted or abused. There is help for lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgendered, questioning/gender queer, intersex, and asexual survivors of sexual assault, abuse or intimate partner violence.

IS IT MY FAULT?

COMMON FEELINGS

THE FIRST STEP TO HEALING

INTIMATE PARTNER VIOLENCE WITHIN THE LGBTQIA COMMUNITY

ARE ALL ABUSERS MEN?

SEXUAL ASSAULT/ABUSE WITHIN THE LGBTQIA COMMUNITY

CAN SEXUAL ASSAULT BE A HATE CRIME?

ARE ALL ATTACKERS MEN?

WHERE CAN I FIND SUPPORT?

WHERE CAN I FIND SAN LUIS OBISPO COUNTY RESOURCES?

IS IT MY FAULT?

Whether you are a survivor of sexual assault or intimate partner violence, it’s not your fault. No one ever deserves to be sexually assaulted or abused. Neither your sexual orientation or gender identity, nor the sexual orientation or gender identity of the perpetrator changes that fact.

COMMON FEELINGS

Sexual assault, sexual abuse, and intimate-partner violence are traumatic experiences. Following an attack, you may have physical pain, injuries, and strong emotional reactions.

You may experience many different feelings, such as self-blame, shame, anger, fear, guilt, or grief. You may find you’re unable to concentrate or focus because you “can’t stop” thinking about what happened. You may also experience flashbacks that make you feel nervous, angry or afraid.

All these feelings are perfectly normal reactions. RISE also offers individual and group counseling and a 24-hour toll-free hotline 855-886-RISE (7473) for survivors who are interested.

THE FIRST STEP TO HEALING

If you are a survivor within the LGBTQIA community, you may be nervous about seeking health care, but sometimes it is the first step. Please know you deserve to be treated with respect and dignity. If you are interested in getting health care, we have a resource page for local health care providers. 

INTIMATE-PARTNER VIOLENCE WITHIN THE LGBTQIA COMMUNITY

Intimate-partner violence can happen in any relationship, including relationships within the LGBTQIA (lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, queer/questioning, intersex and asexual) community. There are many different types of abuse including physical abuse, emotional/verbal abuse, financial abuse, sexual abuse, and technological abuse.

Sometimes abusers within the LGBTQIA community will tell their partners that “this is how it is in a LGBTQIA relationship” to minimize the survivor’s feelings and experiences. Abusers within the LGBTQIA community may also threaten to “out” the survivors if they leave or tell anyone about the abuse.

No one ever deserves to be abused. It is important to remember that intimate partner violence is not okay in any relationship and it is not normal in any relationship.

ARE ALL ABUSERS MEN?

It is important to remember that ANYONE can be a perpetrator of intimate-partner violence. It can be hard to seek help when the abuser is not a man. You may feel like the abuse is not “as bad” as the abuse in other intimate partner violence relationships, because your partner does not fit. You may also feel like you will not be believed.

But no matter the gender of your partner, intimate partner violence is a serious crime.

SEXUAL ASSAULT/ABUSE WITHIN THE LGBTQIA COMMUNITY

As with people who are heterosexual and/or cisgender, those within the LGBTQIA community are also at risk for acquaintance or “date” rape. Sexual assaults in which the attacker is a romantic partner or known acquaintance do occur within the LGBTQIA community. These attacks are motivated by power and control, rather than sexual attraction.

No matter a person’s sexual orientation or gender identity, no one ever deserves to be sexually assaulted. It is not your fault.

CAN SEXUAL ASSAULT BE A HATE CRIME?

When someone in the LGBTQIA community is victimized because of their sexual orientation or gender identity, this is a hate crime. Perpetrators of hate crimes commonly use sexual violence as a way to punish and humiliate someone for being LGBTQIA.

It may be very difficult to come to terms with the fact that your attacker wanted to hurt and humiliate you because of who you are. Please know that no one ever deserves to be sexually assaulted or abused. There is nothing wrong with you.

ARE ALL ATTACKERS MEN?

ANYONE can be a perpetrator of sexual assault/abuse or intimate partner violence. It can be very hard to seek help when your attacker or abuser is not a man. You may feel like others will not believe you. But no matter the gender of your attacker, sexual assault/abuse and intimate partner violence are serious crimes. The gender of your attacker or partner does not change that.

WHERE CAN I FIND SUPPORT?

National Gay and Lesbian Hotline (888) 843-4564

National Sexual Assault Hotline 1.800.656.HOPE (800) 656-4673

The Trevor Project Lifeline 1-866-488-7386

Victims of Crime National Center (800) 211-7996

NYC Anti-Violence Project (212) 714-1141 Hotline

WHERE CAN I FIND SAN LUIS OBISPO COUNTY RESOURCES?

RISE (805) 226-5400 or (885) 886-RISE (7473) Hotline

Victim Witness Assistance Center (SLO County DA) (805) 781-5821

Gay and Lesbian Alliance (GALA) (805) 541-4252

Parents and Friends of Lesbians and Gays (PFLAG) (805) 438-3889

The Pride Center at Cal Poly (805) 756-7733

Cuesta College Gay-Straight Alliance

Tranz-Central Coast (Please call the GALA Center) (805) 541-4252

ADDITIONAL RESOURCES

OnlineSchools.org LGBTQ Student Guide

OnlineSchools.org Guide to Bullying and Cyberbullying

RISE is a non-profit 501(c)(3) organization that provides crisis intervention and treatment services to survivors of sexual and intimate partner violence and their loved ones. All services are provided confidentially, at low or no cost, to anyone regardless of age, ethnicity, gender, sexual orientation, religion, or ability. All crisis services are available in Spanish and English. All staff members are mandated reporters and have an obligation to report under the following circumstances: reports of abuse or neglect to minors, dependent adults, elders, as well as if a client is in danger of hurting themself or others.